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Monday, 25 February 2013

24 February 2012
Adam gets Soul and Iblis refuses

Summary
Lives of the Prophets:
Creation of Adam from Turaab (dirt / soil) - Teen (clay) - Teen al-laazib (sticky clay) - Hama`im masnoon (black, smooth mud) - Salsaal (sounding clay)
Allah creates Adam from dirt from different places
Adam reamined as a sounding clay for many years
The secret of the Soul (Ruh) is only with Allah
Allah puts the Soul (Ruh) in to Adam and he sneezes
The angels are astonished and say Alhamdulillah (praise be to Allah)
Adam says Alhamdulillah and Allah replies Yarhamukullah (the mercy of Allah be upon you)
Allah asks the angels and Iblis to bow before Adam - Iblis refuses
Iblis thinks he is better than Adam because he is made from fire, not dirt
Iblis let his pride and; arrogance cast him out of Paradise - such a great sin
Adam said to the angels: As salaamu ‘alaykum. They replied: wa ‘alakas salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuhu (May the peace of Allah be upon you, and His Mercy be upon you, and His blessings be upon you)
Adam taught the names (uses) of things and given Speech
The angels realise the superiority of Adam as a creation

 


Recap on Evolution
•    Scientific thought has limits and not always proven fact - just observations
•    The Qur'an is fact
•    How did 'Life' create itself (except by Allah)
•    The first DNA and cell survival?
•    Theory of Evolution involves mutation, migration, genetic drift and natural selection
•    Natural Selection has variation in traits, differential reproduction, heredity and Fitness
•    Is Evolution a Continual Process - why can't we see it
•    Variations within a Species isn't Evolution of a Species
•    Holes in fossil records - limited (if any) transitional forms
•    Mutations usually kill the cells
•    Artificial selection can’t introduce a radically new species
•    Evolution can't explain consciousness / mind
•    Adaptation doesn't prove Evolution
•    Irreducible complexity - mousetrap or Eye
 

Lives of the Prophets:
Allah puts the Soul (Ruh) in to Adam
There are old traditions about the angels before the creation of Adam. According to Ibn Qatadah, it was said that the angels were informed about the creation of Adam and his progeny by the jinn who lived before Adam. Abdullah Ibn Umar said that the jinn had existed for many years before Adam and then shed blood. Therefore Allah sent on them an army of angels that drove them out to the depths of the seas. Ibn Abi Hatim narrated from Ali jafar Al Baqer that the angels were informed that man would cause wickedness and shed blood on earth. It was also said that they knew that no one would be created on earth who would not be wicked and shed blood.
Whether or not these traditions are correct, the angels did understand that Allah would create a vicegerent on earth. Allah the Almighty announced that He was going to create a human being out of clay, that He would mould him and blow His spirit into him and then the angels should prostrate before him.
Another version of the story relates that Allah took a handful of the dust of the earth and mixed into it the colours, white, black, yellow and red. That is the reason why men are born different colours. When Allah mixed the dust with water, it turned into potter's clay that makes a sound. It was fermented and had a smell. Iblis passed by, wondering what was going to be made of that clay. From the clay Allah created Adam. he moulded his form with His own hands and blew His spirit into him. Adam's body quivered as life was imbued into it. Verily His Command, when He intends a thing is only that He says to it, "Be!" and it is! [TMQ 37:82].
So Allah shaped Adam into a human being, but he remained a figure of clay for 40 years. The angels went past him. They were seized with fear by what they saw, and Iblis felt fear most. He used to pass by the figure of Adam, buffeting it, which would make a sound like pottery. Allah told us: "He created man (Adam) from sounding clay like the clay of pottery."
We imagine when Allah the Almighty decided to create Adam: He addressed His angels and told them to prostrate before him. He did not mean to ask their opinion or take their advice, for He is above that. Allah the Exalted told them that He was going to create a vicegerent on the earth who would have children and grandchildren who would corrupt the earth and shed each other's blood. That is why the angels said to Allah the Almighty: "Will You place therein those who will make mischief therein and shed blood!" [TMQ 2:30].
When the time drew near to breathe the spirit into Adam, as Allah decreed, He commanded the angels: "When I breathe My spirit into him prostrate before him." Allah breathed His spirit into Adam and when it reached his head Adam sneezed. The angels said: "Say all praise belongs to Allah." Adam repeated: "All praise belongs to Allah." Allah said to him: "Your Lord has granted you mercy."
Allah blew the soul into Adam (ar-Ruh). Our body without ar-Ruh is part of the earth; it is dirt. When the soul leaves our body, the body decomposes into its origin. Allah says, “From the (earth) did We create you, and into it shall We return you, and from it shall We bring you out once again.” (TMQ 20:55) We are nothing without the soul. The essence of life is not in this materialistic body. What puts life in us is the soul – and that is the secret of life. And it remains a secret, even with all of the science and technology that we have.
They came to the Prophet* and asked him about the soul. “And they ask you (O Muhammad SAW) concerning the Ruh (the Spirit); Say: ‘The Ruh (the Spirit): it is one of the things, the knowledge of which is only with my Lord. And of knowledge, you (mankind) have been given only a little.’” (TMQ 17:85) This question was asked to The Prophet* 1400 years ago, and our knowledge hasn’t changed much.

Adam sneezes
Abu Hurairah narrated that the Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: "Allah created Adam from dust after He mixed the clay and left him for some time until it became sticky mud, after which Allah shaped him. After that Allah left him till it became like potter's clay. Iblis used to go past him saying 'You have been created for a great purpose.' After that Allah breathed His spirit into him. The first thing into which the spirit passed was his eye and then his nose. He sneezed. Allah said: "May your Lord have mercy upon you, O Adam! Go to those angels and see what they would say.' So Adam went and greeted them. they replied saying: "Peace be upon you and the mercy and blessings of Allah." Allah said: "O Adam! This is your greeting and that of your offspring." [Sahih al Bukhari]
Adam opened his eyes and saw all the angels prostrating before him except one being who was standing at a distance Adam did not know what kind of creature it was that did not prostrate before him nor did he know its name. Iblis was standing with the angels so as to be included in the command given to them but he was not one of them. He was a jinn, and as such he was supposed to be inferior to the angels. What is clear is that this prostration was to show respect and did not mean that the angels were worshipping Adam. Prostrating in worship is done only for Allah.
When the soul entered into the body of Adam, the first thing that happened was that he sneezed. The Prophet* says that when Allah created Adam and Allah blew the soul into him, Adam sneezed. Adam said, Alhamdulillah (praise be to Allah). Allah said to him, Yarhamukullah (the mercy of Allah be upon you). The first thing that happened to Adam was the deliverance of mercy onto him from Allah. He had the mercy of Allah from the beginning.

Allah asks the angels and Iblis to bow before Adam - Iblis refuses
And then: The angels prostrated themselves all of them together. Except Iblis, he refused to be among the prostrators. [TMQ 15:31-32].
Almighty Allah recounted the story of Iblis's refusal to prostate before Adam: Remember when your Lord said to the angels, "I am going to create a man (Adam) from sounding clay of altered black smooth mud. So when I have fashioned him completely and breathed into him (Adam) the soul which I created for him then fall you down prostrating yourselves unto him." So the angels prostrated themselves all of them together, except Iblis, he refused to be among the prostrators. Allah said: "O Iblis! What is your reason for not being among the prostrators?" Iblis said: "I am not the one to prostrate myself to a human being, whom You created from sounding clay of altered black smooth mud." Allah said: "Then get out from here for verily you are Rajim (an outcast or cursed one). Verily the curse shall be upon you till Day of Recompense (Day of Resurrection)." [TMQ 15:28-35].
In another surah Almighty Allah recounted it thus: Surely We created you (your father Adam) and then gave you shape (the noble shape of a human being), then We told the angels, "Prostrate to Adam" and they prostrated except Iblis he refused to be of those who prostrate.
Allah said: "What prevented you Iblis that you did not prostrate when I commanded you?" Iblis said: "I am better than him (Adam), You created me from fire and him You created from clay." Allah said: "Get down from this Paradise, it is not for you to be arrogant here. Get out, for you are of those humiliated and disgraced." Iblis said: "Allow me respite till the Day of Resurrection)." Allah said: "You are of those allowed respite." [TMQ 7:11-15]
This means that Iblis tried to compare himself to Adam. He believed that he was more honourable than Adam. Therefore he abstained from prostrating even though Allah had commanded him to do so, just as He had commanded the angels. If an analogy is made we see that Iblis is vain. For indeed clay is better than fire because in it can be found the qualities of calmness, clemency, perseverance and growth; whereas in fire can be found heedlessness, insignificance, haste, and incineration.
Iblis tried in vain to justify his refusal: "Shall I prostrate to one whom You created from clay?" Iblis said: "See? those whom You have honoured above me, if You give me respite (keep me alive) to the Day of Resurrection, I will surely seize and mislead his offspring (by sending them astray) all but a few!" [TMQ 17:62]
Adam was following what was happening around him and had feelings of love, awe, and astonishment. Deep love of Allah, Who had created and glorified him and Who had made His angels prostrate before him. Awe of the Creator's wrath when He excluded Iblis from His mercy. Adam was surprised by this creature, Iblis who abhorred him without even knowing him and who imagined himself better than Adam without having proved that he was worthier. What a strange creature Iblis was, and how strange was his excuse for not prostrating! From the dialogue Adam realized that Iblis was a creature characterized by cunning and ingratitude. He then knew that Iblis was his eternal enemy. He was greatly astonished at Iblis's audacity and Allah's tolerance.
Allah knew that Iblis was not going to obey Him in prostrating before Adam. Allah could have totally annihilated him or turned him into a handful of dust or stifled the refusal in his mouth. Yet, Allah gives His commissioned creatures absolute free will even to the extent that they can refuse Allah the Almighty's commands. He grants them the freedom of denial, disobedience, and even disagreement with Him.
His kingdom will not diminish if the disbelievers do not believe in Him nor will it be extended if many people believe in Him. On the contrary, the disbelievers will lose, and the believers will gain but Allah is above all of that.

Dangers of pride / arrogance
There were many traditions about Iblis at the time of the Prophet*. Ibn Masud, Ibn Abbas and a group of the companions of the Prophet* said that Iblis had been the head of the angels in the worldly heavens. Ibn Abbas said in one narration that his name had been Azazil and in another narration he said it had been Al Harith. Ibn Abbas also said that Iblis was a jinn and that they had once been the keepers of Paradise, with Iblis the most honourable and the most learned and the most pious of them. Another tradition says that he had been one of the famous four possessors of wings (angels), before Allah transformed him into the accursed Satan.
Allah Almighty recounts Iblis's disobedience in another surah: Remember when your Lord said to the angels: "Truly I am going to create man from clay. So when I have fashioned him and breathed into him (his) soul created by Me, then you fall down prostrate to him." So the angels prostrated themselves all of them; except Iblis, he was proud and was one of the disbelievers.
Allah said: "The truth is, and the truth I say, that I will fill Hell with you and those of them (mankind) that follow you together." [TMQ 38:71-85]
After this lesson about free will Adam learned another lesson, one about knowledge. Adam realized that Iblis was the symbol of evil in the universe and that the angels were the symbol of good. However he did not yet know anything about himself. Then Allah made him perceive his true identity and the reason for his creation, and the secret of his glorification.
Remember when We said to the angels: "Prostrate yourself before Adam" They prostrated except Iblis, he refused and was proud and was one of the disbelievers (disobedient to Allah)."
Almighty Allah also revealed: And surely, We created you (your father Adam) and then gave you shape (the noble shape of a human being), then We told the angels, "Prostrate to Adam", and they prostrated, except Iblis, he refused to be those who prostrate.
Allah said: "What prevented you (O Iblis) that you did not prostrate when I commanded you?" Iblis said: "I am better than him (Adam), You created me from fire and him You created from clay." Allah said: "O Iblis get down from this (Paradise), it is not for you to be arrogant here. Get out for you are of those humiliated and disgraced." Iblis said: "Allow me respite till the Day they are raised up (Day of Resurrection)." Allah said: "You are of those allowed respite."
Iblis said: "Because You have sent me astray, surely I will sit in wait against them (human beings) on Your Straight Path. Then I will come to them from before them and behind them, from their right and from their left and You will not find most of them as thankful ones (they will not be dutiful to You)."
Allah said: "Get out from Paradise, disgraced and expelled. Whoever of them (mankind) will follow you, then surely I will fill Hell with you all."
We should all be very careful about this sin and try our hardest to avoid being proud, arrogant and patronising. It is hard but really important !

The first conversations in Jannah between Adam - Angels – Allah
Allah told Adam, “Go to those angels sitting over there and tell them As salaamu ‘alaykum.” Allah is teaching Adam. Adam went up to the angels and said, As salaamu ‘alaykum. The angels replied, wa ‘alakas salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barakaatuhu (May the peace of Allah be upon you, and His Mercy be upon you, and His blessings be upon you).
So Adam came back to Allah. Allah told him, This is your greeting and this is the greeting of your descendants. So Allah has taught us our greeting from the beginning and it was taught to Adam; it is As salaamu ‘alaykum (peace be upon you).
The Prophet* said, Spread peace among you. After you deliver the peace, and receive the blessing of your brother’s reply, then you are free to use any greeting you want, whether it’s hi or hello or any other greeting in other languages.

Adam taught the names (uses) of things and given Speech
Allah the Exalted said: He taught Adam all the names of everything. [TMQ 2:31]
Allah granted Adam the power to know the natures of all things and to summarize them by names; that is a bird, that is a star, that is a tree, etc Allah implanted in Adam an insatiable need for and love of knowledge and a desire to bequeath knowledge to his children. This was the reason for his creation and the secret of his glorification.
Allah taught Adam all the names of everything, then He showed them to the angels and said: "Tell Me the names of these if you are truthful." They (angels) said: "Glory be to You, we have no knowledge except what You have taught us. Verily, it is You, the All-Knower, the All-Wise."
He said: "O Adam! Inform them of their names," and when he had informed them of their names, He said: "Did I not tell you that I know the unseen in the heavens and the earth, and I know what you reveal and what you have been hiding?"
Allah wanted the angels to know that He knew of their astonishment when He had told them about the creation of Adam and that He also knew of their confusion which they had not revealed, as well as what Iblis had concealed of his disobedience and ingratitude.
The angels realized that Adam was the creature who knew what they did not know and that his capacity to learn was his noblest quality. His knowledge included knowledge of the Creator which we call faith or Islam, as well as the knowledge he would need to inhabit and master the earth. All kinds of worldly knowledge which are included in this. Adam knew the names of everything.
Allah says that He taught Adam all of the names. [see 2:31] In tafsir it says – and this is the opinion of Ibn ‘Abbaas – that Allah taught him the names of everything. There is another meaning that is mentioned, also, that Allah has given him the ability to identify objects and designate names for these objects. This is the ability of speaking a language. We find that this is a human ability.
We have different languages in the world. These languages were made by human beings, by giving names to objects and then finding verbs and adjectives to tie these things together. Imagine that we didn’t have this ability. Imagine that we had to tell your friend about a tree; you cannot name or identify the object, so you would have to take him to that tree.  If you want to tell him about an apple, you would have to bring the apple to him. Allah created the human and taught him the ability of speech.
This is an ability that Allah didn’t give the angels. They only know specific knowledge that Allah gave them. Angels receive orders from Allah and do what they are commanded. Because Allah created the human being for khilaafa on earth, and to establish this earth and live in it, that ability is necessary for us. We wouldn’t be living if we didn’t have this ability; it is a necessity for us. We are producing every now and then thousands of objects and giving them names – microphones, speakers, etc. We throw thousands of things into the market, and we have names for them. Allah is telling the angels that there is a hikma in creating Adam that they do not know.
This is also a lesson for us: Whenever we see something that we are unable to understand or comprehend, we need to remember that Allah has a wisdom behind it.
There is a hikma behind every action. Many times, human beings fall into the trap of questioning why some events are happening. We question qadr (destiny), suffering and poverty. We don’t know the wisdom behind it, but Allah knows.

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Sunday, 9 January 2011

9 January 2011

9 January 2011

Seerah of Muhammed*
*: May the Peace, Blessings & Mercy of Allah be upon him
TMQ: Translation to the nearest meaning of the Qur’an

Ahl us-Suffa
Part of one of the long colonnades in the Mosque was now reserved for those newcomers who had nowhere to live and no means of sustenance. They were known as "the People of the Bench", Ahl a-Suffah, on account of a stone bench which had been placed there for their benefit; and since the Mosque was a prolongation-of-the Prophet's own dwelling, he and his household felt especially responsible for this growing number of impoverished refugees who lived at their very door, whose plight they witnessed daily and who came in ones and twos from all directions, drawn by the message of Islam and the reports of him and his community which had by now reached the tribes all over Arabia.
When the Qibla was towards the north, the people had built a shed to provide shade, and the place underneath it, was called As-Suffa. The definition of As-Suffa according to Ibn Hajr is that As-Sufa is a place at the back of the Masjid-e-Nabi, it is shaded and it was prepared for the foreigners. The ones who don’t have any family or any place to stay. Abu Huraira, who was also an ahl al-Suffa says (in Bukhari) about Ahl us-Suffa that, Ahl us-Suffa are the guests of Islam, they are the ones who don’t have any family or wealth to fall back on. So they live in this place called As-Suffa. Now not everyone who lived there was forced to live there, because of their condition.

Abu Huraira
Some of them volunteered to join Ahl us-Suffa like Abu Huraira, who had enough wealth, but he chose to devote his time to studying and therefore he lived with the people of As-Suffa. He sais about himself that, some people comment that ,how come Abu Huraira narrates more hadith than the muhajireen and the ansar? They wondered this because Abu Huraira was late in becoming a muslim. Abu Huraira narrated more hadith than anyone else. So Abu Huraira explains how the brothers from the muhajireen were busy with business, while he used to follow RusoolAllah* with an empty stomach. He said that he was poor and had nothing but he would follow Rusool Allah (saw) all the time. So he would attend when the muhajireen were absent and he would remember, when they would forget. Then he would explain that the ansar were busy with their farms. He said that he was a poor man and that he would remember what they wouldn’t. Because Abu Huraira devoted all his time to studying he had time to review all the hadith of the Prophet (saw). Infact Abu Huraira said that he splits the night into three parts. One part for sleeping, one for praying, and one for reviewing the ahadith of RusoolAllah* that he would hear throughout the day.
One source of livelihood for As-Suffa was the sadaqat that the Prophet* sent to them. When the Prophet* receive sadaqat he would send it to them. Also when he would receive a gift he would take some of it and give them the rest. The Prophet* did not accept sadaqat for himself. The Prophet* would encourage the sahabah who are well-off to invite the people of As-Suffa. One of the Ansar said that his father was among the people of As-Suffa. The Prophet* ordered the sahaba to invite the Ahl us-Suffa to their houses and so the sahabah came and invited some until 5 of them were left. Then the Prophet* told them to go to that ansar’s house and he fed them. The Prophet* says that whoever has food enough for two people should take a third and whoever has food enough for four people, such a person should take a fifth of sixth person with him. These sahaba, who were told to invite these people, were not millionaires.  This tells us that sacrifice and generosity has been part of Islam since the beginning.
Allah has repeatedly revealed ayats be kind to the orphans, the poor, the needy, being generous towards guests etc. All of these are ibadaat that have been encouraged from day one. So we should accept that being a muslim does demand sacrifice, and this we have to do, to seek the pleasure of Allah.

Something better than slaves...
Fatima (ra) was the daughter of the Prophet*, the most beloved to the messenger of Allah (saw). Fatima had to do all of the hard work at home. Fatimah before her marriage had been as it were hostess to the People of the Bench. But despite the sacrifices that were part of the daily life of the Prophet's household, her life after her marriage seemed even more rigorous on account of a lack which she had not yet experienced. There had never been, for her, any shortage of helping hands. But now Fatimah had no one in the house to help her. This even caused her hands to become injured and coarse. Ali ibn Talib told her that her father has received slaves, and then he advised her to go ask the Prophet* for a servant. So Fatima (ra) goes to the Prophet* and asks for a servant, the Prophet* responded to his daughter, that I am not going to give you and leave the people of As-Suffa with hungry stomachs, because they don’t have any money. I don’t have any money to spend on them, so I’m going to sell these slaves and use that money to give to Ahl us-Suffa. This tell us how much concern the Prophet* had for Ahl us-Suffa.
Fatima returned home in some disappointment but that night, after they had gone to bed, they heard the voice of the Prophet asking permission to enter. Giving him words of welcome they both rose to their feet, but he told them: "Stay where you are," and sat down beside them. "Shall I not tell you of something better than that which ye asked of me?" he said, and when they said yes he said: "Words which Jibreel taught me, that ye should say Glory be to God ten times after every prayer, and ten times Praise be to God, and ten times God is most great. And that when ye go to bed ye should say them thirty-three times each." 'Ali used to say in after years: "I have never once failed to say them since the Messenger of God taught them to US."

Other graduates
It should not be thought that Ahl us-Suffa would just sit and eat free food, and that they don’t do any work. These were actually very active people in ibadat, these were true monks. They had immense knowledge, who were scholars, mujahideen, many of them became Shuhadah. For example one of the scholars who graduated from among the ranks of Ahl us-Suffa was Abu Huraira (ra), the most prolific narrator of the hadith of Rusool Allah (saw). Another member of Ahl us-Suffa was Huzafia ibn Yamaan (ra), who narrated most of the ahadith about the end of time. Shuhada from among Ahl us-Suffa were Sufwan, Habib bin Isaaf, Hareem , Harifa ibn Nauman, Sarem bin Umair were shuhadah at the battle of Badar. Hanbala the one who was washed by the angels was a shaheed in Uhud. There were also some shuhadah from As-Suffa in Hudaibiyah and various other battles. They would also try to earn for a living my collecting date seeds and selling them as animal feed. They would try to make a living, but due to the difficult conditions in Medina they were forced into poverty.
The number of Ahl us-Suffa rose and decreased depending on the conditions. But on average they were 70. They used to live 24 hours at the back of Masjid-e-Nabi. They were obvioulsy active in studying because they were close to the center of learning, Masjid-e-Nabi, which was the university of islam. That is why these people have narrated a lot of ahadith.
The is a lot of importance of having a social welfare system in islam. People would stay at As-Suffa and eat at the houses of al-Ansar. To take care of social needs is also a part of da’wa.
Ubadah ibn us-Samet (ra)  said that, “The Prophet* would become busy, so he would turn over the new muslim to us.” He also said,  “If a new muhajir (new muslim) would come to Rusool Allah (saw), and if the Prophet* is busy then  he would send him over to one of us to teach him Quran., Rusool Allah sent to me a man, he stayed with me at home, and I would feed him as a member of my own family and then I would teach him Quran.” Da’wa to them includes feeding and taking care of the muhajir. They were aware that these muhajir had left everything they own behind, thus were in need of help.
The Prophet* wanted the muslim society to become organized, so he appointed representatives over these groups. Abu Huraira (ra) was Areef, areef is someone who represents people and would express, or convey the people’s need to the leader. So Abu Huraira (ra) was the representative of Ahl us-Suffa. If the Prophet* wanted to give a message to Ahl us-Suffa, then he would convey it through Abu Huraira (ra).

Hadith
Number15 of Nawawi's 40 Hadith: Good Manners in Speech
Abu Hurairah, radiyallahu 'anhu, reported that the Messenger of Allah, sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, said:  "Let whosoever believes in Allah and in the Last Day either speak good or be silent. Let whosoever believes in Allah and in the Last Day honour his neighbour. Let whosoever believes in Allah and in the Last Day honour his guest."  [Al-Bukhari & Muslim]
This hadith contains the rulings concerning the tongue and the behaviour of Muslims towards others. It also emphasises that we are responsible for what we say.
Imam Haithami points out that this hadith is very similar in meaning to Hadith 13 that says: "None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself." He says that everyone is a neighbour to someone else. Therefore if this hadith is properly practiced and applied, then there will be a strong bond and love within the society or community.
The responsibility of the Muslim regarding what he says is mentioned in the Qur'an: "Not a word does he utter but there is a watcher by him ready to record it" [ TMQ 50:18].
There are also other hadiths which state that the Muslim should be careful about what he says. His words can either, if they are pleasing to Allah, raise him to a higher level; or if his words displease Allah, they may cause him to be thrown into the Hellfire - as stated in a hadith recorded by Imam al-Bukhari. This shows that what we say can have a direct effect on whether it will benefit us or not.
One hadith (which illustrates the example of a bad consequence resulting from what a person says) states that the Prophet, sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, said that a pious man from Bani Israel use to see his fellow man always committing sins. On day the pious man swore to the sinner: "By Allah, He will never forgive you." Allah was displeased with what the pious man said because only Allah knows what is our destiny, whether someone will end up in Paradise or Hell. Because of this, when the two men died, the pious man was punished and put into Hell and the sinner was forgiven by Allah.
What we can learn here is that either we say something beneficial and good or else we should keep silent. There are many Islamic guidelines which help us to say good things and to refrain from saying bad things, or things which displeases Allah subhana wa ta'ala. When we talk to others, whether it is relatives, friends, neighbours, etc., we should select the best terms/words and say them in a nice way. We should ensure that what we say is clear and easily understood. If we are not careful and we do not choose the right words, what we say may be misinterpreted and may lead to conflicts. As a listener, we have to listen positively and interpret what we hear in a good way. We should not 'over interpret' what we hear; we should not try to 'read between the lines'. Thus, as a speaker we say things in a positive manner and as a listener we interpret things in a positive manner. By doing so Islam encourages us to minimise disputes and conflicts.
If we find ourselves in the middle of a dispute between two people, e.g. between relatives, we should not take sides. We should try to help and reconcile the differences; try to resolve the problems and end the dispute.
If we are being consulted by someone and asked for our advice, we should try our best to give good advice. What we say should help the person and not add to his confusion or doubt. If we do not have enough knowledge and we cannot provide proper advice, then we should keep silent. Even if we have information which, as a result, may add to the person's confusion, we should keep it to ourselves.
We should keep away as best as we can from unnecessary or non-beneficial talk. People can talk or chat for hours but a lot of what is said is unimportant or trivial and does not benefit anyone. It wastes our time and this continuous talking may even lead us into areas where we might say something which displeases Allah.
When it comes to saying good things, there are many examples available: dzikrullah (remembrance of Allah), reciting the Qur'an, du'a, giving advice, etc. These are all things which are pleasing to Allah. When we meet people who are sick, sad, feeling down, in a low frame of mind, etc., we should say things that will make these people feel better, have patience in facing their calamity, be positive, be strong, etc. This is known as al-muasah - to say good things of encouragement to help those facing problems; to not make them panic. The scholars have defined sabr (patience) as 'to refrain from panicking' - to refrain from being out of control - and to refrain the tongue from complaining.
Complaining, e.g. simply saying that the weather is hot, will lead us to impatience; it can affect our attitude and hence our work. If we want to lament we should lament only with Allah. If we do it with Allah it is munajah - it will turn into ibadah. If we do it with others it will be complaining (tashakki) - we will be violating the ibadah itself, which is sabr. So we should learn to minimise and ultimately eliminate the act of complaining. We should refrain from saying bad things or things which may be untrue. When we hear some news, we shouldn't simply repeat it or spread it without first verifying if the news is true. This could lead to us spreading lies or rumours. We must refrain from:
- spreading rumours, especially those that will cause harm to the community.
- slandering, back-biting, etc.
- sarcasm and making fun of others - this is one of the most common social ills today. It is a sin to make fun of others.
Sometimes we may encounter a situation which involves fitnah or al-fitan. We have to be careful of what we say. There are people who will take advantage of the situation and they may say things which may worsen the situation. When there is fitnah, people are in a panic and might believe anything. That's why we have to be careful of what we say because it may add to the people's fears and problems. What we should do is to help by saying positive things that will give the people hope; to uplift them and motivate them to face the problems; and not to make it worse.
The second part of this hadith stresses on being courteous and generous to our neighbours and guests. This is stated in the Qur'an [4-36]: "…do good to parents, relatives, orphans, the poor, the neighbour who is near of kin, the neighbour who is a stranger, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (you meet), and those (slaves) whom your right hand possess." In one hadith, the Prophet*, said: "Jibril kept advising me concerning the neighbour to the point that I thought that he would inherit from his neighbour." In another hadith it is stated: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not harm his neighbour."
Another hadith records the Prophet*, as saying that the person who does not have complete faith (iman) is the one from whose affairs the neighbour is not safe. Al-Bukhari and Muslim also records another hadith which states that when you cook stew, you should add a little bit more water and give some to your neighbours. This sharing of food between neighbours can strengthen the relationships between them. We should be nice to our neighbours and share our food even if they are not Muslims.
We should be patient with our neighbour even if he causes annoyance to us. In a hadith, the Prophet, sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam, said that there are three types of people whom Allah loves. One of them is a person who has a neighbour who causes him harm or annoyance but he remains patient and tolerates the neighbour.
The 'guest' mentioned in the last part of the hadith is generally interpreted as a travelling visitor who has come to stay for a short while. One hadith states: "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should be generous to his guest. His special gift (to the guest) is one day and night. He (the guest) is to be entertained for three days. Whatever is beyond that is an act of charity. It is not lawful for a guest to stay with his host to the extent that he makes things difficult for him (the host)." Thus, the visitor should not take advantage of a generous host.
According to many scholars, the recommended act of hosting does not extend to evildoers or heretics.


News Topic:
An angry argument over a boy's firewood chore is believed to have triggered a 10-year-old Ohio boy to shoot and kill his mother, police indicated today.
"Apparently there was a verbal argument about the mother wanting the boy to bring firewood into the house, which may have had a bearing on what happened," Holmes County Sheriff's Chief Deputy Nathan Fritz told ABC News. "Apparently the tenor of the argument was very heated."
Deborah McVay, 46, was found dead of a single gunshot wound to the head Sunday night in the family's home – an apartment converted from a two-car garage - in the tiny town of Big Prarie.
[See links above for more of the story]
Some of the points discussed included:
- How Islam focuses on the relationship between parents and children
- 'Paradise lies under the feet of your mother'
- Children should listen to the parents
- Parents should be mindful of their duties to children
- There are too many guns in USA but this is enshrined in their constitution

Homework from 09 January 2011:
1. Research what Aishah said to some Jews in medina when they insulted the Prophet*, and what the Prophet said in rebuke?
2. What do you understand from the next (number 16) of Nawawi's 40 Hadith: Abu Hurairah reported that a man said to the Prophet*: "Advise me! "The Prophet said, "Do not become angry and furious." The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, "Do not become angry and furious." [Bukhari]
3. Research some ways in which we can control our anger.
4. News Topics from this week: Any interesting news articles from the week that relate to Islam or the Muslims? Bring a clipping or print out if you can...